There was a story in the media last week about a girl who took her own life in front of her family. Brandy Vela was in so much pain that she felt her only option was suicide.
This story has kept me up at night. This was such a beautiful human being who had the rest of her life ahead of her. I can’t imagine how horrible she had to feel on the inside to come to this conclusion. The pain had to have been unbearable.
And all because of some other kids who felt the need to make this girl feel bad about herself. Where are these kids? Where are their parents?
Where the hell are the other parents? Why aren’t people watching their children on social media? Why is this still happening?
I get it, it’s hard. It’s so hard to keep up with everything our kids are capable of doing on the internet. But we have to start doing a better job.
We need to talk about it more. We need to talk about it everyday. We need to remind our kids the importance of choosing kind.
My kids are 9, 8, 6,and 5. I told them the story about Brandy Vela, the girl who took her life. In front of her own family. I know a lot of people don’t agree with me telling them such a horrible story, but I just had to.
I need my kids to know and understand what suicide is. I need them to understand how permanent it is. I need them to understand the amount of pain a person has to be in to take that drastic measure. I need them to understand that their words can cut so deep.
I need them to know that mean people exist. I need to let them know that people’s feelings can be hurt by words that are spoken or written. I need them to understand that their actions have consequences.
I have kids that will make pretty easy targets for bullies. But I also pray that they are never the bully. I hope to raise kids incapable of inflicting such pain on anyone else. I hope. I also hope that they will be the kids to stand up for other kids that are being bullied.
If you ever see my kid bully someone, please, please, freaking tell me. Bullying is never going to stop unless parents start to put an end to it. Please don’t look the other way.
This needs to stop. And it needs to stop now. No family should ever have to go through this again. No child should ever have to go through this again.